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Bluerthan Blue,
Thank you for your response. Those are my thoughts too.👍 I don’t mind telling. My husband started his own business. Little by little he manipulated and coerced me to give up my career to work for him. The rational is that we net more if we didn’t have to pay SS, WC etc… yeah I know, dumb to believe him. Anyway he took on this client for a big $$ job. The client didn’t pay. We had to eat the loss. The client came back 3 years later, needing another job. He’d done the same thing to every other vendor in a couple hundred mile radius, that did what we did. He was well connected and well liked, if you weren't one of his vendors. He treated all venors the same, ran his business into bankruotcy and paid pennis on the dollar. He got the other power players in the community to pressure my husband to do his job. I said NO! Lots of fights. The welsher finally asked my husband what he had to do before I would let my husband take the job. One of my jobs for my husband was Comptroller. I said pay everything owed plus interest to date. He paid up… and stiffed us again. I was livid. I promised never again. 5 years later the welsher was back. More pressure. My husband wanted to be one of the big guys in the community. We fought for 2 months. Finally my husband threatened me and told me he was the boss, I’d do as I was told! I asked "and what if he does something really evil?" My husband ridiculed me and said he’d take full responsibility. Under threat I folded, with the stipulation the past debt was paid in full, plus interest accrued monthly, to that date and $5000 in advance. Just as we finished the job, over the hill came a crop dusting plane and it circled me 3 times and dropped a belly full of Monitor an organophosphate insecticide, same class as Sarin gas, right on top of me. My daughter who’s a phD Entomologist has said, "Mom, its a miracle you survived!" It destroyed every system in my body. Since I didn’t die the creep got his friends to rent fields next to us and lay down toxic chemicals every week. The crop duster continued straffing my house and organic farm with pesticide. I was sent home to die in 2004. Most people don’t survive past 2 years from the date of diagnosis with this. My husband and I had a verbal contract on what he needed to do to rectify his debt to me. I’m holding him to it. The verbal contract is witnessed and is legally binding. He’s still working on that debt. My daughter and son-in-law are supporting the honorable treatment of me. Its powerful leverage. I never wanted him chained and miserable. I’ve offered to divorce him many times so that he can go live his life how he wants, as long as he fulfills our contract. I don’t have a clue why he all the sudden decided he could cheat. My daughter and SIL are applying pressure, and holding him accountable. I’m working with an IC, though initially devastated, I think I’m going to be o.k. 😌

So your husband's bad decisions nearly killed you and ruined you, and on top of that he was cheating on you with your stepmother and your sister. With a husband like that, who needs enemies?

You really need to see a lawyer ASAP to discuss your situation and find out what next steps you should take and to what you're legally entitled under the law.

Also, if you have any life insurance policies, please make sure that he is removed as a beneficiary from them. Some people might think I watch too much Dateline, but your story is even more over-the-top than half their episodes. You can't underestimate what a grade A scumbag like him will do.

[This message edited by BluerThanBlue at 4:22 AM, Wednesday, May 7th]

Hi OnLonelyMountain.. I am in North Carolina and have had regular Starlink for about six months. What you're describing sounds like their effort to get into phone service, which I read a little about several months ago and their partnership with T-Mobile. Since the Starlink satellites are in low orbit, there's little latency, which makes it a good choice for voice communications. Our cell service at our home is almost non-existent, so we set our cell phones for WiFi calling and use our internet connection. So, with that scenario you do need subscriptions for both Starlink and a cell service provider.

TracFone and other providers have pretty cheap prepaid services IF you don't need a lot of minutes or mobile data each month. I have a spare cell phone on TracFone that only cost about $8.00 a month. Coupled with the standard Starlink residential rate of $120.00 per month, that would be $128.00. Just a thought..

From what I read a few months ago, I though T-Mobile was going to offer a service that could use their phones to make satellite calls using the Starlink network of satellites. When you're in need of something it's always "hurry up and wait" when companies keep promising something but then keep delaying deployment of the service.. Good luck with it..

BluerThanBlue,

Thank you for the compassion and passion of your reply.😀I too have a similar temperament. I get you. If only it were so easy. You said,

with a husband like that who needs enemies.

My enemies are worse. They include the State Dept of Justice and the Bar Association. When you go against pesticide and its "use" in an agricultural state they weaponize the system against you. The next sheriff we elected following a trial where I sued one of the flying monkeys of the wealthy, powerful guy for stalking and chemical assault, informed me that they rigged the trial against me and it involved the state DOJ, the Dept of Ag, the Dept of HHS, the outgoing sheriff, the judge, the county commissioners, the DA and my lawyer. I was blackballed by the state. Anyone who helps me gets no assistance or work related to the Dept of Ag. Thats everybody. I won’t get a fair trial, even if I get a lawyer. I’m radio-active. They won’t touch me. However, I’m aware that Ron talked to a lawyer years ago (from questions he asked me) that lawyer told him I’d get every penny he had. I don’t want everything he has. I’m not going to live that long. My needs are few, my wants are simple. I certainly can’t go into the public, so no lavish vacations, etc. Ron has often mentioned that "if we ever got a divorce, hypothetically speaking, we should file ourselves." He figures he can at least get 1/2. And I’m good with it. As long as he’s reasonable, and I’m kept safe, warm, comfortable and my few needs/wants are met, I’m good. We’ve talked about it. We’ve agreed that all the beneficiaries remain the same, and all of the other’s assets revert to the survivor, or our daughter. If he does anything nefarious our daughter, son-in-law (and therefore the grandkids) will never speak to him as long as he lives. She, and the Gkids, are the only persons he loves more than his own life. So, while negotiating this is rather like free climbing a rock face, I have more chance of success without a lawyer, than with. I represented myself Pro Se in that trial during the Exparté portion and won on the arguments against the judge. He extorted me and said if I didn’t get a lawyer (totally illegal) for the second part of the trial he’d have me jailed for contempt. I’d told him that would kill me; he didn’t care. He wanted me taken out. But I still got what I needed: the stalker quit because his legal fees cost him $5000.

[This message edited by OnLonelyMountain at 5:45 PM, Wednesday, May 7th]

Hi Adolfo,
Thank you for the details. They’re very helpful. Here it looks like it would cost $300/month for starlink plus cell. Currently I pay $112-120 for 4 devices. I just need to hike 1/4 mile to the top of the mountain to use anything that needs more than 1 of 4 bars. 😆