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Brinon,

If she thought her pastor had referred this man to her, she may have been reasonably confused about what to do.

If her pastor did refer this man to her, I hope she has told him what happened.

If her pastor wasn’t involved, just coincidental, this man is from somewhere else in her life, well, then she has some questions to answer.

Hello, new here, so as outsiders would you all consider this an emotional affair…my husband and step mom started texting because my dad doesn’t and he would ask about parts for things to repair around the house..then over the last two years it went to reg chit chat and things she should be texting me about she would text him, excessive phone calls between them because she didn’t call me anymore, especially when we are on trips always checking in with each other even though there is a group message, he was always wanting a reason to go to their house or inviting them everywhere we go, they would stop by our house without checking first. Anyway I started getting a wierd vibe and noticed their behavior towards each other. My gut kicked in and told me something was off. (That’s when I checked his phone and saw all the text messages, I didn’t know before it was to that extent) when I confronted him he blew up, said it wasn’t what I think..it’s Jim’s mother in law, told me I was crazy and the whole bit. I blew my top and told my dad. I know they are having issues now and we currently aren’t speaking to each other, my dad said they would leave us alone to figure things out, I know he didn’t realize either. I also know they are having problems now as well. Thanks for listening…

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WS had a 4 month EA that was about to turn to a PA according to my WS, the same week of DDay. Plans were being made; when and where to meet as both agreed to sex and he purchased condoms that he had hid for this event. WS AP told me they had never met up yet outside of work.

This is WS 2nd affair, 1st affair was 1 night stand, this EA affair has hurt more, changed how I see him, made me question everything and has messed with my head more than the 1 night stand ever did. Currently in limbo, no decision to R or D. WS wants R and has started IC.